Everyone uses the various instant messengers such as MSN, Windows Messenger, AIM,  and Yahoo! There’s even instant messaging on Facebook now and if you aren’t using them, some would say you’re behind the times.

I would say, you are missing out on some prime opportunities to pick up some beautiful women online.

Instant messaging is often one of the most neglected avenues for picking up some of the hottest girls.  However, many guys just make far too many mistakes when it comes to instant messaging beautiful women. You need to attract women to you, not pounce on them like a predator, at least not in the early stages.

The funny thing about picking up girls through instant-messaging is that it is so much easier than it sounds or looks.

Let’s go over a very common error guys make when talking to beautiful women on instant messaging.  This mistake sometimes completely blows their chances of getting a date.

How To Pick-Up Girls Online: Don’t Instant Message Too Fast

The common mistake is men and women too talk way too fast. I mean we simply send too many messages and too quickly.  Unless this is part of a joke you’re trying to pull, this comes off as much too needy. 

Pace of chat, like in real-life conversation, is critical even during instant messaging conversations.  Talking too fast on instant messaging is the equivalent of being "that annoying guy that doesn't leave those girls alone."

As a rule of thumb, every time she sends you a message, wait 6-10 seconds before responding. Of course this doesn't apply to everything. There are other secrets to using instant messaging but I’m not going to cover it in this article. 

By taking these extra few seconds of silence after she sends you a message, you won’t come off like you are doing nothing but talking to her.  Remember what we are trying to portray here?  

You are trying to portray a confident, high-quality male.  Guys like you have better things to do than just talk to her. You are talking to other people. You are on the phone. You are busy with your job. You get the picture.

Women want guys with lives.  So do not portray like you do not have one.  Do not smother her with messages.

Here is another tip. Make sure your spelling and punctuation is at least adequate.  Wow, finally grade school is important?

Everyone should be doing this all the time with everyone.  When you are instant-messaging with a girl, take that extra few seconds to make sure you haven’t slaughtered the English language!

How To Pick-Up Girls Online: Intelligence

Here’s an example of what NOT to do:

“Hey. What r u doing 2night?”

Does it honestly hurt that much to simply type, “Hey.  What are you doing tonight?”

The answer is no.  Do not be lazy.  By doing this you are portraying some degree of intelligence.  Portraying intelligence is never a bad thing.  It shows that you have high survival and replication value.

Do you honestly think some girl is going to dig you if it’s evident that you have the brain the size of peanut?  I guess if you’re going for that type of girl.

Okay.  So we have covered the pace of the conversation and the importance of spelling, punctuation, and grammar. But I could honestly spend forever talking about some more meaty tips to help you seduce women online.

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